What is conscious growth?

 What exactly do you mean by growing consciously? Does it just have to do with learning stuff, doing things understanding in the physical plane of life every object thing or event manifests  and just repeating things over and over again?

 Conscious growth is way beyond all this. If you want to take the best example,  the best  way to see something is to have the object  you are viewing within the eyesight. If something goes beyond the limits of what meets the eye,  you can say it is out of vision. The same thing can you talk about your ears,  there is a stipulated frequency range beyond which the ears cannot hear. Every Single sense organ,  works the same way. The conscious mind,  is just a reflection imitation and combinations of each of the sense organs extrapolated at any point of time.

 Likewise if you cannot see something or you cannot hear something or you cannot feel something or you cannot taste something,  it is really not the evidence of its absence.  The subconscious mind is similar to this perspective.

 The funny thing about how the conscious and subconscious mind works is it doesn't have any kind of defined pattern accept the basic instincts of fear of loud noise and the ones which we are born with.  Most of the other sensations,  ideologies,  beliefs  and thoughts   are just learnt along the way.

 Being a Prisoner of these patterns,  prevents us from really realising the biggest power of our conscious mind.  If the body was just to rely on the sense organs of with,  we would be so much more unbiased about a lot of things which happen.   However,  sadly that is not the case.

 Every time we go through and experience,  our brain works in such a way that it would want to connect the dots with what you already know.  So,  what is when you have the actual thing that happened and your interpretation of what happened.   Every device invented by man  doesn't record or capture  all the five sensory perceptions.

 Due to this,  the way we project what has happened,  forces itself  through a software called beliefs.  The conscious mind is just a reflection of the software called belief.  If there is a new experience out of all the five sensory perceptions,  one that we have never experience before we get to install a new belief system.  Now really the conscious mind is actually conscious.  This is when we actually realise what is vs  actually we think it is.

 The challenge for most of us is in flushing out what we really believe and life for what is.  Many people fail in this aspect of life where they perceive something and all the get experience right now this moment is reflection of the software which runs in the present  moment.

 Do we realise that we can actually install A software called present moment consciousness which supersede the belief system which exists?  This is when we realise that people live lives of quiet desperation and they are absolutely helpless in terms of moving in life  towards the dreams and goals.

 So,  it is very key to take a note that every belief you hold onto was once installed upon you.  Whether it was installed consciously or unconsciously,  the quality of life you have currently reflects how effective the current belief system works on you.

 I believe it is a big challenge to wake up to this fact and actually get to work  on the belief system itself rather than just  woke on the happenings.  Sometimes getting beliefs uninstalled  can be very complicated.  When two or more ropes  intertwined with each other and we have 15 other ropes  on the same fashion intertwined with each other in various permutations and combinations,  removing the Knot is much more complicated and Messier  then completely throwing it off.  In other words,  if we can install the belief  that you can willfully throw  out old beliefs,  this one belief  can give rise to higher states of consciousness.  Becoming aware of this power is key  to succeed.

 Learning how a belief was created  can be very complicated if we have not understood the fact that basic beliefs can be interwoven into  a different complicated  belief  and trying to unknot the same  is like getting on a treadmill I am hoping to move from one place to another.

  Removing this  roadblocks potentially a very challenging area for most the individuals. So comes the thought ' never believe in anything 100%'.  Use the beliefs like how you would use a computer software.  You do not Work on one particular software if you feel that  It wouldn't solve the current problem you have.  You actually Google it,  browse the net,  ask other people  and try out various other ways to solve the problem.  However if  the result  expected is not achieved you would not trade off anything for the end.  You will still say that,   the issue is unresolved.

 Consciously choosing the thoughts knowing the end result that is expected helps us to eliminate thinking inside a box.  When it comes to solution it is always binary.  You either have the problem resolved or  it is unresolved.

  Many a time,  we only focus on solving a problem but, to  get the conscious mind actually involved in the problem,  we would need to state the problem very clearly  and specify the outcome very clearly.  If we cannot specify the outcome very clearly,  we are at least decide on the fact that need to keep working until the problem not a problem anymore.

 Taking consciousness from the perspective of non-believer or in other words knowing that we choose something  right here right now can be a purely conscious process.  To conclude,  if we want to grow consciously we need to realise that we are choosing to do something only to solve a problem.,  if the problem is not resolved then we would need to conclude that that software called belief has outrun our consciousness.  So start afresh but knowing that you are more conscious now.  Group consciously! 

The Real Reason why we have Broken Relationships

 How to connect with people when we are genuinely having an agenda in our mind.

As we understand on a daily basis we have thousands of thoughts which run on our mind. The challenge is we are not able to communicate what we feel exactly with the other person because we don't want to come out as somebody who's selfish and who just wants to get things done based on only ones requirements and needs.

 Learning people skills, reading books on how to communicate with people, and being genuinely interested with the people, I don't really think is going to help what we are doing if we are really not genuinely interested in the other persons Wellness and in what he /she really wants.

 See, the thin line between being brutally selfish and being somebody who is an influencer and who is able to get things done is seeing the other persons wants recognising them at the same time be able to get what we want done, recognising hand in hand without dismissing and at the same time feeling the other person that he is important in the deal. The most important leaders are able to get this done very very successfully.

 Someone sees as the most important thing they need and what they want to achieve is not really what they actually wanted. But do you how to communicate to the other person what you want to achieve in a way so that the other person realises that he or she has to help the other person get the things they want in a way which they will be able to operate from the emotional physical and spiritual comfort zone?

A hypothetical depiction of a communication system where most of the people are is just thinking about how to get things done without thinking in terms of his perceptions, bringing his ideas, his views and how he feels life really works in terms of his perspective really.

 The biggest challenge lies in this perspective because most humans want to get the things done at the cost of somebody else's and as the day and age progresses, more and more people want to manipulate things to achieve financial profits to make sure that they are successful in whatever they do rather than trying to see how we can strike a Win-Win deal like Stephen coffee states in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

 Due to all these reasons the biggest challenge happens when people actually fall prey to bad habits such as smoking drinking eating excessively abusing people breaking things and every other depression which you can come across is just a manifestation of not thinking win win or no deal.

 Sometimes it is very challenging to even think every situation has to be a win win however there are several circumstances when we can actually get into a no deal. Let's say, you have 100 rupees in your hand that and another person has sugar worth hundred rupees. In case you don't want that sugar, what you would do is you would not give that hundred rupees to him and you would not expect him to give the sugar to you. The conflict arises when you manipulate and you want the other person to give you 100 rupees worth of salt when actually what he has to give his hundred rupees worth of sugar. There are multiple solutions to this problem. For example the person who is actually having hundred rupees sugar can actually have a friend who is actually having a rupees worth of salt and the person who is having hundred rupees worth of salt might be ready to help you in giving you what you want. The person in this deal where who actually wants 100 rupees who is having rupees worth of sugar helps you with another friend who gets a deal of rupees 100 for the salt isn't benefiting and he is just giving and helping you.

 This is the problem where people start feeling that they actually give more than what they get, but they do not realise that the law of nature works in such a way that the more you give the more you are eligible to receive and the problem comes when most of the time we are thinking about how we can just get rather than give. Most of the Desire what we have is in fear that we actually lose more than what we actually get and the only reason why we get this feeling is because everybody around us does the same thing.

 Idea that this thought that we are actually at the losing end when we help somebody else that we are not able to see that when somebody else goes to the same kind of situation the natural Instinct it actually help you. How the because we have had in a way which is important in other words we have tried to call the hundred rupees in this case without actually providing the value for the hundred rupees most of the deals in our life 100 rupees of sugar is there you have 100 rupees and you are giving it to somebody who doesn't give you what you want or you hundred rupees without actually giving the value for the hundred rupees. There are two ways to go board and fix this issue.

 The first thing to realise that this problem potentially can happen and every conversation you strike with for the next 100 days you would need to be mentally aware that there is going to be multiple situations where you might have to say no deal no deal. This is not going to be a very comfortable situation for you to be because all along, you have been used to doing a transaction every single time you speak to somebody. So the thought that you are going to not get into a transaction where you are not going to benefit neither is the other person going to benefit and its just going to get time wasted. You may have to get used to this fact that you are going to say no deal to somebody and in fact of 10 deals there is a good possibility that you can say it's going to be a no deal 10 out of 10 or 20 out of 20 times. However, the relief you get emotionally when you actually state no deal which is not going to be a win win both ways, is enormous.

 Second solution for this this is first understand what the other person's ulterior motive is. When you actually realise what the other person really wants out of this deal Get Enough data whether it is something you really want. Many a time we do not know what you want and it is essential for us to clarify what we want asking the other person what he is ready to give and then we understand that thin line between what he is ready to do give whether it is exactly what we want to receive we would need to communicate that very clearly that our expectations are not met we should be very good friends.

 Once you realise that you are in getting into many deals which are not effectively getting into Win-Win kind of a situation for both the parties involved you then get the in terms of relationships you realise that there is no domination there is no real force which is exerted in any of these discussions. That might be a possibility that the other person want something much more than what you can give. In this case for example let's say you work for a company clearly states that this this this is what he really wants you to do and you really realise that this is not going to help you get what you want, be challenged to really think what is it that you really want. If you say you don't want something you must be very clear about what you want.

 It takes a lot of practice it takes a lot of guts to actually own up and say that I do not want something if you say that I don't want something you would need to redefine it as what is it that you really want. Many a time we hear somebody
Stating I don't want something I don't want something but they have no idea what really they want.

 So when somebody says you need to reset goals you need to be clear about what you want it is very important for us to realise that many time we actually wish many things do not happen. The do not happen is a very confusing phrase for our mind for the universe and for the rest of the world because have no idea about what you are talking about they feel offended that you are saying no to them rather than actually realising that you are unclear about what you want.

 Hence if you want to conclude this let's agree that it is very important clearly what you want rather than telling people what you don't want if somebody has to actually listen to what you got to say you have to understand what they want. Many a time people themselves have no idea what they want and they enter expressing every single time what they do not want. When this situation arises it is a great idea to dive deep into the conversation and actually question them without challenging their ego. ACTUALLY this ends up getting out of their mouth what they want. Doing this one thing clarifying what you want and clarifying what another person wants, we do not have to manipulate people or use people skills or get used by other people. Remember it's either a Win-win or no deal. If you are not clear about this then ask them what is their win win, ask yourself what is your win win. Strike deals which are only win win and see your self image and self worth grow many times. Grow consciously!

How Can I Get Lucky

Often times in life, we wonder whether there is luck or whether it is a matter of the work we do and the dedication we put in. However if you have seen the waves, is it the ebb which causes the wave or the wave which causes the ebb? It never is clear what causes what. Sometimes people are bombarded with a volley of incidents which beyond a shadow indicates a bad phase in their lives. How does one handle the ups and downs of the emotions?

Taking perspective into consideration, every happening is always a trigger for something else to happen. When we lose the perspective of the happening, we get to experience a sense of loss of control in our lives. By perspective, I mean the angle from which there is a lesson to proceed for the future. History invariably tends to repeat itself periodically. But sometimes, amidst the storms of emotions, it is very difficult to decipher the message from an event or a happening.


As we all know, most of the earth is still a mystery and what we have discovered here is hardly a miniscule compared to the larger perspective of the earth in its entirety. Every day, there is something or the other which is being discovered about the universe which was unknown till that moment. But taking into the consideration of what we know, we always look for new things from what we know. For instance, if we know that the hair is black in color, we can notice anything and everything which is black or we can notice anything which resembles hair. However, if you don’t know the color “adinayle”, is it really possible to find it?


Now how do we seek to find out something we don’t know? A larger perspective and guidance is required to see through the shortcomings of any event. Let’s say that you come to a four road junction, and there is no signal to regulate it, there is no way you will know what is coming down the corner of the road, when to slow down and when to speed up. However, there is a thinking which has to go behind this before the signal is available to use.

Along the way, it does make sense to pull in this perspective in life which helps you to naturally slow down or speed up in our lives. Failures are nothing but signals toward something. When we know what to interpret of it, it is easy to second guess that we are all lucky as we all have some indicators to the expected result.

Very often a mentor provides this perspective on how we put things in life so that we can move on with ease with respect to the proverbial signal in our life. Several cross roads in life are unmanned and there are no signals to follow in terms of safety. It is sometimes very hard to put logic into all the randomness which life unrolls. A mentor is someone who helps you to channelize this direction of effort and he gives you the map to reach where you want to. Along the way, what you might realize is that you have different landmarks which you remember when you think of the process. This might be very different to what the mentorship provides and is called experience.



It’s necessary to understand that when we push a door when it is written pull, it might take a very long time to open the door. Sometimes you might be breaking the door and not opening it. In terms of life setbacks are like the door signs. We might need some help to learn to push or pull at the handles of the doors in lives which are the setbacks. However, if the push or pull sign on a door is written on the other side, it would be very difficult to find it out unless you discover by chance. Most of the times in our lives, the googly is, the door signs of our setbacks being pasted on the other side. A mentor can read it and guide us so that we can capitalize on the clues.


Mostly, we never look for this in our lives and all of us want and crave for independence and individuality in our lives. When we look around, it is easy to accept that we did have our set of luck in our lives. But most of the time it is the return on luck which is missing! We refuse to accept these offerings or seek for these offerings from someone who is at least 5-10yrs ahead of us in our desired field in life.


Hard work is a necessity in our lives. But most often than not, we do not have the return on luck for the work is because we refuse to choose that guide in our lives. Secondly, we do not volunteer to become the guides for others who are 5-10yrs behind in our endeavor we are successful at. This disconnect towards ourselves is why we feel the results don’t match our work and we say we are unlucky. Nevertheless, I would say that we do not know what return on luck means and unless we know that, we shall remain unlucky.

Waking Up From Sleep

This is my first post on the blog. I would like to talk in detail about how I woke up from my slumber. As we know, every single soul which entered this earth, there is one thing which is common among all of us. It is death. The ultimate certainty which every individual is bound to face is death. Against the backdrop of death, its silly to think of any other challenges which actually exists in front of us. Steve Jobs says in his Stanfford address that "Live your life everyday as if it were the last day in your life, and most certainly one of those days will turn out to be true."

Many times when I see people who are really lost in their current day problems and daily challenges, I wonder what it would be worth when today is past. It tantamounts to say that we are nothing when we compare ourselves over the length of time. When I was in my school I was told to focus on my studies and fair well in my exams and get a decent grade and also to choose a career which will help me lead a comfortable life. But as we all know the word comfort in real life is a very relative term. If you can get the actual meaning behind the word, it is a feeling rather than a physical thing. Most of this world is constituted by people who sleep over with their music in them, settling down for a meager living.

Slumber is something which is blessed to all humans for shutting down all the senses and just be with themselves. A better understanding of this would be a typical game which most of us would have played. MARIO! When you start the game, you move forward fight enemies, eat plants, get lives, cross hurdles and do several things. But have you ever wondered who that MARIO is? Yes many of you would say the MARIO is the person playing the game. Correct but its not 100% true. You just represent an avatar called MARIO inside the game stimulation. But you are not MARIO. You are not the one who is chased by devils and demons. You live outside the game and MARIO is just an avatar which projects you within the game environment.

In life, similarly we are what we are in life, inside the simulation or game of earth. The actual you is contained outside you. If you ever try shutting down a MARIO game, did you observe that you still exist. On similar grounds we do exist even when we lose our physical bodies. If your do not believe me, just try this! Sit back and close your eyes and think about the first time you ever went out with a good friend or your first gift you got from someone whom you really loved. Now open your eyes!! Did any of these actually exist in front of you or is any of this currently being experienced by you in the present?? Heck No! Where did all this actually take place?

Maybe you might call it your mind. But my question is how do you know it is true?? Can you prove it to someone else by any means? Well its funny that life in itself is a wonderful mystery because it is built on what we perceive. Mostly what we perceive is an effect of what we are conditioned to perceive right from childhood, our friends, parents, neighbours , news and several unconscious mediums.Have you ever sat back and wondered for a moment whether what you see is what exactly is? What you hear is what exactly it is? But its very strange that after a point in time people have a set of beliefs routed in them saying I am so and so, I work for ____ and I am an extrovert,open,opinionated,charming etc.

When I play the game of MARIO, if I get hit by the enemy do I really die or does my avatar have to start off from the beginning? I am sure all of us would agree we would rather take a chance to reach the end point rather than wait and make time tick away and lose our life. Well what if we are killed in the process of trying to reach the so called end point and we are hurt or lose our size on the way? I am sure nobody hits the reset button and starts from scratch. They try to grow bigger along the way again. But who is the one who becomes bigger or smaller in the game? Its the MARIO Avatar. We are the ones who control the joystick and play the game from the outside. Immaterial of whatever happens in the game, the person who is playing the game is the same.

But in life hardly do we see people moving forward. Just because an enemy lies in front of us, we stay a little away from them dodging them or trying to make friends with them or maybe even worse just seeing an enemy from a distance. By enemy what I mean is the challenges we face on our day to day life. Ultimately it is our life that exists and the challenges and demons are not under our control. However we can choose to move past them as in the game of MARIO. Its we who chose to play our game on this Earth. What is the point if we are not moving forward? Yes challenges do happen and we are rattled. But where is the real you?? Is it the one who is put down by the challenge or is it someone outside all this physical things whose sole aim is to get to the destination meant to be reached.

The beauty of this life is, unlike the game of MARIO we simulate everything which happens on earth including the problems and challenges. So if there is a challenge out there and we ourselves are running away from that, its essentially we running away from ourselves. When people decide to sit and work in a painful job where they feel least motivated to stay and succeed, it just leads to a cognitive dissonance. Its like the spider making its own web and itself getting trapped in it! Sitting back and thinking neutrally is pretty easy as opposed to thinking within the physical realms. We need to understand the rules which exist here in this earth on the whole. The rules means the universal truths. Everything else is just a creation made by us. We can move beyond what we created and what really poses to challenge us.

I woke up when I was totally frustrated with what was currently happening in my life when I was in my training in my company. I was all excited to work after a long break and very shortly I found out that I was in my own trap. I realized that I needed to get out of my own trap and exhibit my strength. In my case I had dug a deep trench and burried my music afraid that I couldnt make it in the world where so many people competed against each other. I realized that the only competition that existed was the one created by me. So i stopped creating it. The only message here is, whenever you have a big challenge when you seem to be repeatedly feeling empty or dissatisfied at the end of the day, you need to realise that you have to wake up! Just as what you see in your sleep cannot be proved real, what you currently experience may not be the reality too. You might be sleeping in your own degree. So WAKE UP!